*Post is written in behalf of my Family100 College class. Quotes and material are found from ‘Successful Marriages and Families – Proclamation Principles and Research Perspectives,’ Chapter 12, Mothers as Nurturers.
“Just as a mother’s body may be permanently marked with the signs of pregnancy and childbirth, the Savior said, “I have graven thee upon the palms of my hands” (1 Nephi 21:15-16 and Isiah 49:16). For both a mother and the Savior, those marks memorialize a wrenching sacrifice – the sacrifice of begetting life – for her, physical birth; for him, spiritual rebirth.” (Elder Bruce C Hafen and Sister Marie K. Hafen, pg. 131)
When I read this quote, I cried. My fingers gently ran over my cesarian scar and I thought about how much I love my daughter Emilie and how I would do anything for her and how I want the absolute best for her. How too must our Savior feel when he see’s the scars graven in his hands. To have a glimpse of what his love is like, it’s incomparable to anything in this world.
I can’t begin to to explain how I personally have changed since becoming a mother. It opened doors to learning that I did not expect. I took pregnancy classes, nutrition classes, child development, psychology classes etc. etc. I could not and still cannot learn enough! And you know what? I began to love learning. It wasn’t just something that I did in class anymore, it was my free time, my hobby, my new found passion. This child needs the best start and she is depending on me.
“Motherhood is the ideal opportunity for lifelong learning. A mother’s learning grows as she nurtures the child in his or her developing years. They are both learning and maturing together at a remarkable pace. It’s exponential, not linear… In the process of rearing her children, a mother studies such topics as child development; nutrition; health care; physiology; psychology; nursing with medical research and care; and educational tutoring in many diverse fields such as math, science, geography, literature, English, and foreign languages. She develops gifts such as music, athletics, dance, and public speaking. The learning examples could continue endlessy.” (pg. 131)
And they do “continue endlessly!”
The other change I have experienced is increase in love. Emilie has this little cheesy eye squinty smile that she’ll give me whenever we make eye contact. Which happens like a bilgillion times a day. Every time she does this I get a little swelling in my chest, and I think how can this little girl produce such a reaction within me! Well my friends, I have come to terms, that it is love. I love the feeling of love.
I actually was very scared about becoming a Mom. I was unsure of my capabilities. Could I love someone that much, could I be enough? But I trusted that God knew what he was doing when he created me in the first place. A woman. Divinely designed to be a nurturer. And you know what? He was right. (https://www.lds.org/topics/family-proclamation?lang=eng)
This is my all time favorite quote, like bathroom mirror status type of quote. I invite you all to read it except in this case, replace the word “woman” with the word “Mothers.”
“Women of God can never be like women of the world. The world has enough women who are tough; we need women who are tender. There are enough women who are coarse; we need women who are kind. There are enough women who are rude; we need women who are refined. We have enough women of fame and fortune; we need more women of faith. We have enough greed; we need more goodness. We have enough vanity; we need more virtue. We have enough popularity; we need more purity.” ~ Margaret D. Nadauld (The Joy of Womanhood)
“Making the decision to have a child – it is momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body. ”
― Elizabeth Stone